How Your Parents' Divorce Affects Your Love Life [EXPERT] | Nancy ...

Do you still feel the effects of your parents' divorce?

Research suggests that grown-up children of divorced parents feel the effects into adulthood.

Have you wondered why you are attracted to certain people?

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The link between the relationship role model provided by your parents in your formative years and the choices you make in love are directly connected. Even if your parents' divorce was not contentious, you will tend to lean towards a more cautionary route in relationships.

A?new study?shows?children of divorced parents can suffer the effects of the breakup throughout adulthood. It is through this experience that you develop a particular mental and emotional framework about relationships.

Those beliefs become something you accept as true, without question. That means you can expect that every day it will seem just as true as it was the day before. Your beliefs are deeply embedded in you, so you live your life without questioning them.?Today, those wrong mindsets will direct your love life until you overcome and replace those beliefs with truth.?

Do the following resonate with your love life choices?

1. I won't marry. The fear of vulnerability leads many people to avoid commitment altogether. Going to the opposite extreme does not necessarily mean emotional hurt and pain will be completely avoided. The problem with making unbending promises is the tendency in human nature to draw into life that which is unresolved. Pushing down or trying to ignore feelings of rejection resulting from divorce does not eliminate them. Whatever pain that is hidden in your heart will eventually surface.

2. I want the picket fence. The other extreme is believing a committed relationship and marriage can be perfect without effort. Love does not happen by itself, but takes a mutual effort to build a solid foundation of trust, connection, respect and deep love. The belief that one will "know" who is the right one only through physical attraction is mistaken and unprepared for commitment. Idealizing marriage as the opposite of what was experienced through divorce only leads to a set up for disappointment in those unrealistic expectations.

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